Learn the value of being the best you can be in your family by living your life on purpose.
How do we take care of first things first if we don't know what is truly first? The bible says in Psalms 11:3, “If the Foundations are destroyed, what can the righteous do?” Our priority should always be God. It only makes sense if He is where it all began anyway. He is our foundation. If this is your priority, then your day will reflect that.
How? It will show in the way you spend your time. Do you spend time with Him every day, cultivating that most important relationship? Praying, conversing, reading your bible, and hanging out with like minded people will point you to Him first. We like the term "connecting to the vine". You will see in John 15 that Jesus is the vine and we are extensions of Him in this world to lead others to Him. Just like a tree that is healthy, we need to bear fruit if you will. That just means good things are in your character and your actions.
Once we make this the number one priority, we can continue on to the next.
The husband is the spiritual leader of the home. This means he should take the lead to initiate prayer and going to church as well as meaningful conversations about the Lord. Be sure to exemplify love and worship of God at home and not only in church. You can find biblical example of this as the Jews observed the Sabbath and the Passover at home.
“In the same way, you wives must accept the authority of your husbands, even those who refuse to accept the good News. Your godly lives will speak to them better than any words. They will be won over by watching your pure, godly behavior." (I Pet 3:1-2)
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"Once we make this the number one priority, we can continue on to the next." So true Thanks for linking this at Mustard Seeds
ReplyDeleteI remind myself over and over again about the priorities God has set for our family. When my priorities are in order, life goes more smoothly regardless of the trials we're going through! Thanks for the reminder to refocus.
ReplyDeleteHi Jennifer, thanks for stopping by! I agree, life is smoother and even if times get tough, we have that oasis so to speak where God can guide us because we have listening ears. Thanks for commenting!
ReplyDeleteI'm always confused as to how to let my husband led. I'm spiritually single and it's really hard to get him to make any decision without me prodding him that is unless it's something with us not doing something for God. Any advice?
ReplyDeleteI appreciate your question. I think it is very common for wives to be spiritually single. That can be so frustrating when you feel like your family can't go the right direction until your husband gets in line with God. There are two things I would advise and these take patience.
ReplyDeleteFirst, while you are waiting for your husband to become the spiritual leader he was created to be, you must be the role model your children need. You are the spiritual leader right now. It is a reversed role, but it's better than nothing. Take them to church, read the Bible to them, teach them the ways of God and pray over them the scriptures. Insert their names in the scriptures and claim the promises of God over them. Ask God to reveal to you their spiritual needs so you can do your part to fulfill them. The Bible says God is a father to the fatherless. Though your children have a physical father, they do not have a spiritual father. God can be that for them. Pray this way for them daily. God knows their hearts so He can direct you as you spiritually lead them. You are not spiritually single if you look at it that way. You have the most perfect spiritual partner of all, GOD. "In all your ways, acknowledge Him, and He will direct your paths."
Secondly, for your husband, you can follow the scripture listed above, “In the same way, you wives must accept the authority of your husbands, even those who refuse to accept the good News. Your godly lives will speak to them better than any words. They will be won over by watching your pure, godly behavior." (I Pet 3:1-2)
After examining your heart and placing yourself under God's authority to purify you and make you a godly example, your husband will see your godly life and be blessed by it. Ask God to show you how to love him the way God does. Of course,don't forget to pray daily. Pray over your husband everyday that He would become the man God desires him to be. Pray that you would be like a "city on a hill that cannot be hidden". That you would "Let your light shine before all men (your husband) that they (he) may see your good works and praise your father in heaven."
It may be a long road. God will be faithful to you and your children. Cover them in prayer and God will do His part to shepherd them. I will be praying for you too!
Thank you so much! I greatly appreciate you answering me. I have only recently been reading on praying your children in scriptures and have never seen it done is there somewhere with some examples? I saw one that you posted and I love it! Prayer is an area that I am working on because I use to pray a lot more but then I got busy (isn't that the same excuse we all use? Not a very good one either). I am working on praying and talking more about God around my husband and I'm hoping that he gets more comfortable hearing it. He does attend church with us because I asked him too so I keep hoping that will reach him one day. I pray for a mentor man to come into his life and be there for him he really needs that. I feel like he's a swaying tree and one good push from a good man will be what he needs. Thanks for praying for us!!
ReplyDeleteFor your boys a great ebook to get is "Warrior Prayers" as she walks you through praying scriptures over your sons that cover topics our sons need prayer in. You can certainly just insert your husbands name too. It's on sale for 2.99 right now. I highly recommend it for you. Here is the link: http://www.brookemcglothlin.com/warriorprayers/about/
ReplyDeleteThanks so much for commenting. I would love to answer any questions you have. You are on the right track! Keep going and persevering. Galatians tells us, "Do not grow weary in doing good, for in the end, you will reap a harvest of benefits if you do not give up."
Thank you! I will have to wait to buy it as we just moved and my husband is only working day to day right now (two bucks is cheap though....) I would love to read it and look forward to it!
ReplyDelete(sorry it would'nt let me post with my usual name I don't know if I've been blocked or what is going on but it is me!)
ReplyDeleteI promise I haven't blocked you :) I just moderate my comments and so they don't show up until I see them. I hope your move was successful. Yes, it's cheap, but I understand waiting until you know you can spend your two dollars there instead of at Wal Mart :) Blessings!
ReplyDeleteI thought I would let you know that I got the book! I havne't started reading it yet but I do have it yeay! Thank you so much for letting me know about it!
ReplyDeleteAwesome! I would love to hear about what you thought of it. I have one that is about to come out for moms with boys too :).
ReplyDeleteMommaraff- The eBook I told you I was writing for moms with boys is out! I would love to give it to you. Message me your email address and I will send it to you! Love and prayers,
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